Aphrodite and My Different Goddess Archetypes

For my birthday numerous years in the past, a pricey girlfriend organized a girls’ luncheon for me. It was touching, particularly since I had not had a luncheon in my honor for greater than 20 years. I had given her the title of 10 of essentially the most highly effective ladies I do know.

Although this was not a milestone birthday, my pal noticed it as a monumental birthday. In any case, I used to be turning 61, the age my grandmother took her life. By the way in which, my memoir, Regina’s Closet is about her life and our relationship.

Throughout the weeks main as much as that birthday I grew to become impressed to mirror upon my life and the position of girls through the ages. Not like my grandmother, who believed she had nothing else to supply from her life, I really feel as if my life had simply begun.

I used to be nonetheless tapping into new adventures and exploring new horizons. Instances have been completely different for my grandmother, who was orphaned throughout World Conflict I. She had fewer alternatives than many ladies as we speak.

Within the weeks main as much as my birthday, I reread the works of Jean Shinoda Bolen, particularly her basic ebook, Goddesses in Everywoman. Along with having been remodeled by this ebook, it was serendipitous that a lot of my birthday presents that yr have been additionally related to goddesses.

This informed me that a lot of my pals and colleagues have been additionally at a crossroads or time of transition of their lives. A time of reflection. A time to consider our position in society. Most of us had grown kids, and whereas I’d not but develop into a grandmother, a few of my pals had.

Whereas by no means actually a feminist, I’ve at all times believed within the energy of girls to provoke change and transformation. In any case, my title, Diana is after the Roman Goddess of the Hunt, which resonates with the way in which I lead my life, as a seeker and a hunter.

I’ve additionally at all times skilled a theme of lack of love, which Bolen says is a typical theme in lots of heroine myths. She explains that’s the reason most ladies outline themselves by their relationships somewhat than their accomplishments.

Ladies’s identities are very carefully tied to their relationships, so when a beloved one dies, they undergo twice – lack of the connection and a lack of an id. I’m additionally a powerful believer within the concept of getting to undergo the darkness to search out the sunshine and from all dangerous comes good.

In line with Bolen, we could also be completely different goddesses throughout completely different occasions in our lives. The goddess archetypes are deep needs that modify from lady to lady, offering autonomy, creativity, energy, mental change, spirituality, sexuality and/or relationships.

She identifies seven advanced archetypes inside every lady which might be referred to as upon at numerous occasions throughout our lives. These can be utilized to explain sure persona patterns or traits.

For instance, as a result of I’m a inventive and sensual particular person, the goddess I most establish with is Aphrodite. Bolen claims, “Every time Aphrodite is current, vitality is generated; lovers glow with well-being and heightened vitality; dialog sparkles, stimulating ideas and emotions.” (p. 229).

She is taken into account the alchemical goddess. She places magnificence and creativity first. At different occasions in my life, equivalent to after graduating college at a time when mind and pursuing a profession was my utmost precedence, I’ve felt the goddess Athena, whose main realm is mind and pursuing a profession or challenge.

Across the time I received married again in 1977, I grew to become Hera, who sometimes places marriage first. Most frequently, I’ve felt like both Artemis or Aphrodite. Artemis was the goddess who bonded and rescued different ladies, along with her mom, however by no means wished to be like her mom.

Whereas we is perhaps completely different goddesses throughout completely different levels in our lives, there may be normally one goddess that has most prominence in our lives. Understanding this gives a container for our sentiments and in addition gives a specific amount of consolation.

It’s okay to be who we wish to be after we must be that particular person. In different phrases, we’re maneuvering round our duties and carrying completely different hats when it’s vital to take action. In line with Bolen, I’m presently within the clever lady stage, and I have to say that I’m fairly snug right here.

It’s a time in my life after I might be who I wish to be whereas holding little concern about what others assume or really feel about who I’m. My contentment is intrinsic as an alternative of extrinsic.

Figuring out and understanding the goddess archetypes gives a container for understanding who we’re. We don’t should be one or one other. In line with Carol Pearson in her ebook Awakening the Heroes Inside, these archetypes or internal guides, assist us on our journey.

Whichever archetype is distinguished at a given time brings with it a process, a lesson and a present. General, they train us tips on how to stay and behave. As a result of all of the archetypes stay within us, we’re capable of entry them after we want them, which means that “all of us have this full human potential inside ourselves” (p.7).

Pearson connects her archetype classification to 12 archetypes we are able to faucet into to assist discover our truest nature and rework us. These embody: the harmless, the orphan, the warrior, the caregiver, the seeker, the lover, the destroyer, the creator, the ruler, the magician, the sage and the idiot. All these assist to stability the psyche; assist us join with ourselves and develop a way of wholeness.

As Bolen says, it’s not a lot what occurred to you that made the distinction or what archetype was current when it occurred; what’s vital is what occurred within you that remodeled or made the distinction.


Bolen, J. S. (1984). Goddesses in Everywoman. Harper: New York: NY.

Madison, P. (2011). Goddesses in Older Ladies: Archetypes in Ladies Over Fifty or Changing into a Juicy Crone.” Psychology At present. October 24.

Pearson, C. S. (1991). Awakening the Heroes Inside. Harper: San Francisco, CA.

Have you ever considered your self and your persona sort? Have you ever thought-about which goddess persona archetype you is perhaps? Would figuring out change something in your life? How?