How We Deal with Potty Coaching

Guess what took over the past 4 days in our home? Yuuup… potty coaching! I’d be mendacity if I mentioned I used to be psyched to dive into potty coaching insanity once more however this was our third time across the block and I really discovered myself feeling comparatively relaxed about the entire ordeal. I knew it wouldn’t be excellent. I knew there could be accidents. I knew there’d be hiccups and hurdles alongside the best way however I additionally knew we’d get there… or will get there — we’re doing nicely however we’re nonetheless solely 4 days in with Rhett so we’re not “carried out” by any means. It’s a course of and we’re getting there!

(The potty training reward tokens pictured above are an Amazon discover!)

Once I shared we have been diving into potty coaching on Instagram, I obtained a bunch of messages asking me to share my expertise. Three youngsters later and I believe I lastly have a ok grasp on potty coaching to share a weblog publish about our method primarily based on what labored (and is at the moment working) for our boys.

Earlier than we got down to potty prepare Chase (our oldest son), I learn the e book Oh Crap! Potty Training. It’s an extremely useful useful resource and one I like to recommend however I additionally encourage anybody who reads it to take it with a grain of salt. It’s saturated with info and might enhance stress for some, too. I took the “take what works for us, go away what doesn’t” method when studying that e book. The consequence was a potty coaching methodology that isn’t fancy, catchy or Pinterest-graphic pleasant however it works for us and helps us maintain our sanity and never stress over one thing we all know our youngsters can deal with.

As for the boys’ ages, we’ve potty skilled all three of them across the similar age. Our boys all have summer time birthdays and we’ve potty skilled all of them at two-and-a-half years outdated once they’ve been a pair months shy of three. This has confirmed to be a candy spot with our boys as a result of they will talk, perceive us and appear to get what’s occurring. (I’m fairly positive the Oh Crap Potty Coaching e book had me sweating and stressing considering I missed the “ideally suited” potty coaching window with Chase however we have been completely advantageous.) Potty coaching just a few months earlier than Chase and Ryder started attending the 3s class at their preschool gave them a few months to work on potty coaching, deal with hurdles, follow going potty outdoors of our dwelling, and so on. and we’re doing an analogous timeline for Rhett for a similar cause.

And now let’s transfer proper alongside to how we method potty coaching!

Hopefully you all know this by now however please know I’m not even near a potty coaching knowledgeable. I’m only a mother of three who has been across the potty coaching block a time or two and located a technique that works for her youngsters and retains stress minimal. In case you’re planning to potty prepare your baby quickly, I encourage you to make use of what may be just right for you from this publish and ignore something that isn’t an incredible match for you or your youngster.

How We Deal with Potty Coaching

That is HUGE! We discuss so much about potty coaching for every week or so earlier than we start. This seems like studying potty-specific books (the boys have all liked this one and this one because of the interactive noisy buttons), taking them alongside to select some enjoyable character underwear, involving them in choosing their rewards for potty coaching and watching the Daniel Tiger potty coaching episode. The Daniel Tiger potty episode features a little potty music (“If it’s important to go potty, cease and go instantly. Flush and wash and be in your means!”) and we sing this music continuous throughout potty coaching. It’s an incredible useful resource and I believe it resonates nicely with youngsters as a result of it’s memorable and makes it really feel rather less tense and disturbing. This Daniel Tiger potty training book is a good way to strengthen the episode.

  • Commit To Being Dwelling for 2-3 Days

We clear our calendar and decide to holing up at dwelling for 2 or three days when it’s potty coaching time. Playtime outdoors within the yard is completely advantageous (an enormous perk of summertime potty coaching!) however aside from that, we keep dwelling and attempt to place ourselves in the identical room as the child who’s potty coaching as a lot as doable. This makes it simpler to note indicators that they might want to make use of the potty and we’re higher capable of shortly transfer them to the potty if an accident begins. Throughout these few days, we’re all about recurrently encouraging journeys to the potty all day lengthy. Loading up on liquids so extra common journeys to the potty occur is one other tip I learn that we additionally implement.

  • Bare from the Waist Down

This one was met with slightly resistance from Chase and Rhett (Ryder was our little nudist and was all about it) however maintaining the boys bare from the waist down has been pivotal for us for the primary few days. It makes it simpler to see an accident the second it begins and the children REALLY discover the wetness as a result of it’s throughout their legs and ft. None of our boys have favored this sense and I believe after the primary couple of accidents they start to place two and two collectively and understand that to ensure that their our bodies to remain dry, they must make it to the potty.

I do know there are combined viewpoints about reward-based potty coaching however we’re ALL about it. It really works and severely motivates our boys. We have now all the time carried out slightly sticker chart which works nicely for the primary or two day however ultimately all of our boys have misplaced curiosity within the sticker reward chart. What didn’t they lose curiosity in? Sweet. Haha! Selecting one in all their favourite candies (or, in Rhett’s case, marshmallows) as a reward for any profitable potty journeys labored like a attraction for our boys and undoubtedly elevated their motivation to take a seat on the potty and attempt to go. Slightly deal with after a profitable journey to the potty shouldn’t be one thing I sweat as a result of I do know they received’t be ready for a marshmallow or M&M from Mother after each potty journey for all the times. I’m completely advantageous with slightly one thing particular to assist reinforce our reward once they make it to the potty, particularly since that is the a part of potty coaching out youngsters have favored finest!

One different novelty price mentioning that’s not precisely a reward however undoubtedly elevated potty coaching enthusiasm with our boys are these color-changing potty stickers. You place one on the backside of slightly potty they usually change coloration when warmth (on this case pee!) prompts them. They rinse clear in order that they’re resuable and add slightly further enjoyable to the monotony of potty coaching.

I do know this isn’t reasonable for the long-term however through the first couple of days at dwelling, we take a little potty with us and transfer it throughout the home so the potty is well accessible always. Ultimately it will get saved within the toilet however to start with of potty coaching, maintaining the potty shut by works nicely for us. For these potty coaching little boys, I extremely suggest a potty that has slightly hump that goes between their legs (like this one) to attenuate splashing and messes. I additionally ordered this potty seat that folds away that you just place on high of an enormous rest room however now we have not transitioned to that one for Rhett to make use of simply but.

  • Don’t Sweat Naps and Nighttime

This was recommendation I obtained from our pediatrician throughout our first go-around with potty coaching Chase that I took to coronary heart. Don’t sweat naps or nighttime potty coaching instantly. Little youngsters have little bladders and in the event that they’re nonetheless waking up after nighttime with a full, moist diaper, considering they will maintain it by way of the evening is perhaps slightly an excessive amount of to deal with instantly. We’ve all the time allowed for diapers throughout naps and nighttime and whereas I initially anxious this is perhaps complicated, Chase and Ryder by no means appeared to query it or get confused and so we’re taking the identical tactic with Rhett.

As soon as our 2-3 days at dwelling for the preliminary potty coaching blitz are up, it’s underwear time! We attempt to actually, actually encourage use of the potty earlier than leaving the home at any time when now we have to go someplace and in addition go to the potty proper after we arrive someplace to attenuate accidents as a lot as doable. That being mentioned, you higher consider now we have a spare pair of underwear and shorts/pants within the automobile always in case of an accident for fairly some time simply to be protected.

I do know pull-ups work for a lot of however I’ve by no means carried out them for our boys as a result of the boys’ 2s preschool instructor informed us she’s seen many youngsters get confused by them as a result of they don’t really feel the wetness after an accident as a lot as actual underwear. (She has 20+ years of expertise serving to youngsters study to go potty so I trusted her recommendation on this one!) As an alternative of pull-ups, after we first start venturing out of the home, I’ve put the boys in extra-absorbent cotton underwear. It’s slightly thicker within the crotch space than conventional youngsters’ underwear so it helps soak up dribbles and a small quantity of urine however it nonetheless permits the kid to really feel wetness after an accident. They’ve been my go-to for the start days/weeks of potty coaching! Be aware: They’ll NOT maintain your youngster fully dry and will not be a diaper substitute by any means however they’re useful in stopping moist shorts/pants if a toddler lets out slightly dribble (not a full bladder launch).

  • Acknowledge A Lot of Youngsters Have Their “Factor” When It Involves Potty Coaching + Accidents Occur + Working towards Persistence

One factor I’ve realized in the case of potty coaching is that many, many youngsters have a hurdle of some type to beat in the case of potty coaching. I vividly keep in mind two of my girlfriends struggling big-time as a result of their kids refused to poop within the potty in any respect and all the time requested for a diaper. Ryder was our child who refused to poop at college and would have an accident proper after we arrived dwelling from preschool until we made positive he ran inside and instantly used the potty. Proper now, our hurdle with Rhett appears to be the massive rest room. He a lot, a lot prefers his little potty and is kind of intimidated by an actual rest room. We’re taking our time with this for the time being and limiting lengthy journeys out of the home as a result of he appears nervous about sitting on something aside from his little potty. (I’m open to recommendations on methods to make this simpler for him if any of you’ve any recommendation!) Speaking with many, many mates made me understand lots of youngsters have one thing they must work on throughout their potty coaching journey and potty coaching is commonly removed from seamless. (Additionally, for any new readers, this blog post Q&A I did with a potty training expert after we have been within the midst of potty coaching Chase addresses lots of potty coaching hurdles!)

I’ve discovered myself reminding myself to offer the boys (and myself) lots of grace throughout potty coaching. Potty coaching might be irritating and I believe it’s okay to confess it’s not probably the most enjoyable or thrilling endeavor to embark on with a toddler. Is it annoying once you ask your youngster in the event that they must go potty solely to listen to them say “no” and have an accident two minutes later? In fact. Does it occur? In fact. Whereas potty coaching can occur shortly for some, it usually takes time and includes some accidents alongside the best way. Holding expectations reasonable and never imagining your child as some form of potty prodigy can go a good distance.

And now I’d loveee to listen to from you guys! Please weigh in under, as I do know lots of us profit from feedback and recommendation from those that have been by way of the ringer with kid-related stuff like potty coaching! You guys have helped me numerous instances throughout my motherhood journey and I’m all the time so grateful to your insights!

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