The Fascinating World of Goals

I’m captivated by desires and what they inform us. However I’m not an knowledgeable. Simply somebody who has tried to interpret my very own desires – and sometimes these of my household, when requested.

Do you dream loads? It may be very fascinating to attempt to make sense of desires.

I do not know how usually I dream. I usually get up understanding I’ve been in a deep and complex dream, nevertheless it has vanished like steam by the point I’m acutely aware.

Very often, I’ve what is perhaps referred to as ‘on a regular basis’ mundane desires the place what I’m doing shouldn’t be so totally different from my day-to-day life. They’re OK.

And each from time to time, I’ve very particular desires, the place I’m being feted for one thing I’ve achieved or have come into some huge cash. I at all times get up feeling nice.

However the desires I most keep in mind are the nervous or anxious desires.

I generally get conventional nervousness desires, the place you aren’t in management and issues are going flawed. These should not very frequent – solely yearly or so. And they’re normally of one in every of two sorts.

One is popping up for an examination and realising that I forgot to check for it. I may even surprise, within the dream, why I forgot to check, however I’m at all times sick ready. The dream by no means will get to the purpose of my writing out the examination and positively not getting the outcomes.

As I wish to be ready for issues, that is by no means a great way to spend the evening. I don’t wish to be ‘discovered’ as somebody unable to carry out as anticipated.

An much more anxiety-producing dream is the place I’ve no garments on, though everybody else does. I additionally surprise generally, throughout the dream, how I managed to neglect my garments or to be carrying very skimpy ones. I are likely to resolve to ‘make the perfect of it’ and hope different folks received’t discover that I’m not dressed.

Once more, I hardly ever come up refreshed after such a dream. With out garments, you’re so weak and incompetent, particularly on this planet of the clothed.

After I was roughly 50 and starting to get sizzling flushes (‘flashes’ within the US), I had a really clearly symbolic dream that I remembered very vividly – and nonetheless do.

I had moved to a brand new flat that was fairly spacious, and I used to be very pleased about that. However sadly, there have been lots of people in a single room of the flat who appeared to have events all evening lengthy. Numerous consuming and smoking and loud noise.

I mentioned to my husband (in my dream) that certainly we may eliminate these very noisy and ugly folks dwelling inside our personal flat. No, he mentioned, they’d a really tight contract and couldn’t be evicted.

I awakened. However what an ideal metaphor for the nuisances of menopause. They’re inside you, and you can not eliminate them.

One would assume that as we get older – and I’m now 81, so I’m positively within the “older” class – we’d dream about being previous. In actual fact, I’m by no means previous in my desires. I’m normally one thing vaguely middle-aged, say 45 or so.

Certainly, every now and then, I dream that I’m pregnant (I’ve two grown-up youngsters and two teen-age grandchildren, so I do know what being pregnant is like nevertheless it was all a very long time in the past).

However I do dream about rising previous symbolically. A typical image of my well-being is a home or flat or generally a automobile. See what you assume.

I’m usually house-hunting (for no apparent motive) in my desires and the flats or homes that I discover are virtually at all times a bit dilapidated or in different methods much less fascinating than I would love. Lately, the flat I had discovered was on the eighth ground with no elevator. I needed to climb stairs and it was exhausting work.

Identical to getting previous.

And I’ve plenty of desires about travelling, clearly symbolic of the journey of life. I lately dreamt that I used to be on the airport, about to take off for someplace and everybody in my get together had an enormous quantity of luggage. Not plenty of interpretation required there.

And plenty of of my desires are about driving, which appears so symbolic of 1’s capability to manage one’s personal ‘automobile’. These are sometimes at evening, the place nothing may be very clear. Or I’m at a celebration and realise that I’m going to need to drive house at evening. In actual life, I’ve at all times hated driving at evening.

Maybe the strangest one in every of all was a current dream the place the steering wheel for the automobile that I used to be driving was within the again seat, so it was very troublesome to see the street.

Make of those what you’ll, however to me they’re all about getting ready myself for one thing that may be very troublesome.

And but, having mentioned all this, I do like being previous and have written about it extensively.

A good friend of mine, Hilke Tiedemann, has simply printed a new book of short stories and poems. One brief poem resonated with me for causes that should be apparent and I connect it for you now with Hilke’s permission.

In My Goals

In my desires

I’m by no means previous,

My coronary heart isn’t chilly.

In my desires

I’m extra actual than actual;





Primal drive,

Visions and epiphanies,

A second of eternity.

In my desires

I’m by no means previous

Hilke Tiedemann, 2023

Do you keep in mind your desires? Are they pleased or anxious desires? Are you able to recount any of them?